Love this, great explanation.
Nice video! I know, right? I can see how asexuality and polyamory can work
hand in hand, but wouldn’t consider it easier to find partners because both
groups are scarce as it is. What does Shirley think?
Even though it sounds hard to believe, this was one of the most interesting
and insightful videos I’ve seen in a long time. Thanks for being so
@AceAmoeba OMG, definitely not easier to find partners! It makes it even
more difficult. But also more satisfying when you find yourself in (a)
really good relationship/s (:
@robobuska I don’t find many of these awesome partners, to be honest. I
wasn’t looking for my life partner, she was just always there. And one of
the problems with my current BF is that he isn’t polyamorous… He’s fine
with my life partner, but the sexuality issue is back on the debate table.
It’s more difficult to find partners this way, but easier to create a
suitable relationship if you’ve found them.
@GucciGal93 About your questions – many asexuals masturbate, and so do I.
My body can function sexually and can get sexually aroused – but I’m not
attracted to other people and don’t want to have sexuality a part of my
relationships. I started identifying as “asexual until proven otherwise”
when I was 16 and I first heard of the term (I haven’t been proven
otherwise yet 😉 ).
@GucciGal93 I have some sexual experience, but not much. However, my sexual
experiences have changed since I started identifying as asexual. I’m more
aware of my feelings (or lack of them) and have more knowledge about what
I’m going through in order to sexually experiment in a healthier way.
@schwindsichtiga Thanks! (:
@sexualfuturist Thank you! I felt kind of bad doing this video on the spur
of the moment when I haven’t made a sexualfuturist video for so long… 🙁
@GaiaShirley Don’t worry about it, your videos are worth waiting for. = )
Glad so see your smiling face on any channel. Laci has served as part of
our inspiration for how we YouTube. She was also named the 2010
SexualFuturist of the year.
Fascinating video. I’ve been single and celibate for almost nine years and
I’m happy this way. I don’t quite know yet whether I’m asexual or just
celibate (I feel like all kinds of odd since my recent discovery of the
term asexuality) but the notion of asexual polyamory totally makes sense to
me. I don’t quite know how asexual relationships work, but a close circle
of compassionate partners sounds like a sensible thing. Thank you
GaiaShirley for your interesting videos.
Another great video! You are a credit to both the asexual and polyamorous
Many different configurations of relationships can work beyond monogamy &
you have found one which works for you. That’s lovely 🙂 I have a partner
who is asexual. I just love her and accept her as she is 🙂 We are a total
miss-match sexually! OKCupid might work for meeting asexual people? Thanks
for posting this video and raising the profile of asexuality. I appreciate
your honesty 🙂
Hello GaiaShirley, I am asexual and polyamorous. I am interested in your
video, but I can not hear your English too fast for me, because I am
Japanese. Do you have any writing place(for example blog) of your thought?
I am in AVEN,Tumblr,Twitter,Google+.
this i svery interstttting I have wodered if they can have like masterbate
or they have no lust and can do itlike any onnne else on the Celbrate
celacby page one said the reason I have never had sex is I h ave no desire
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might do is a test forlkinefelter syndrome very intesting
I’m also asexual and polyamorous! I love the idea of “free love”, and don’t
like the idea of limiting myself from expressing my love to other people.
I”m currently single, and don’t like the idea of marriage, but the
combination of asexuality and polyamory just works for me.
I think that polyamory involving asexuals is okay, but I couldn’t do it as
a sexual person. I’d loathe the idea of someone else having sex with my
partner. I’m too jealous and plus the fear of STDs is too great for me.
Wow what great thoughts and a great video. I am going to share this with
i think i met you in tel aviv at the gay pride in june 2012. i also have a
picture with you 🙂
That makes a lot of sense 🙂 Cool! Could you send me the photo? I’d love to
see it. My email is asexuality.il at gmail.com.
I absolutely love your discussion of this topic! Though I am generally
sexual with many of my intimates, that is not always the case. For
instance, in my time coping with and coming to terms with sexual abuse that
happened to me, I have gone through periods of “sexual anorexia.” Polyamory
allowed me to still feel very loved, connected, intimate and supported
during times when sex, at least on my end, was just not on the table. This
debunks so many of the orgiastic myths surrounding poly. 🙂
Yeah, that sounds somewhat familiar – being able to feel loved, intimate,
supported with the “limitation” of not wanting to have sex. I’m glad you
enjoyed the discussion in the video, and I always like to debunk myths! (:
This was a very educational video and loved how you explained your
sexuality and relationships. I would admit that I’m asexual who is
definitely open to polyamory. Thanks for sharing this!!
Hi Gaia! I’m asexual from Brazil! Just wanted to tell you that you speaks a
Perfect explanation! Thanks for making this video.
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